On the first day of any math class I've ever been in, without fail, the teacher tells us that we can't forget what math we've learned in the past. (Cue groans and terrified expressions.) If we forget addition, then we can't subtract. If we forget Algebra, we won't grasp Calculus.
The same is true with relationships. You keep building on the past. You can't forget where you're coming from and what you've been through with anyone you're in a relationship with--relationship as in friendship, family, or marriage. The moment you forget the things you've been through together, good and bad, is the moment the relationship begins to die.
Now, I know it's hard to deal with the bad memories. Sometimes, you might want to erase them from you mind, especially on those bad days when you're fighting yet again or just plain feel awkward around each other. You can't, though. That would be your worst mistake. On those days when nothing seems right, think about the the hard times that you and your friend made it through before and then think about what kept you going.
Sometimes, most of the time, arguments can be resolved with just a hug. Today, hug someone you've snapped at. Apologize and then hug them. If you haven't been particularly snappish, then hug someone who's been sharp with you. I know that whenever I'm cruel to people, it usually means I feel unloved. I need a hug as a reminder that that isn't true.
Hugs to anyone who's had a rough week, especially to people who are sick or who have just been in a break-up.
Cheers,
Kirsti, the Hug Blogger!
